How to Forgive, Forget and Let Go
①Forgiving someone does not mean releasing them from an earlierguilt. What if the person who wronged you is not living? What if the person issomeone who made you extremely embarrassed during school 20 or 30 years ago? Lettinggo of emotional pain does not mean that nothing happened; it means that you nolonger want to be controlled by it.
②Recognize that forgiveness is not denial. Whatever caused the painwas a real incident. Denying that it happened means it is too painful to workthrough the emotions. There is no timeline on forgiveness. Some steps takelonger to get through, and it is acceptable to set them aside for a period oftime. Part of forgiveness is understanding whether or not someone takesresponsibility for what happened, and may even show regret.
③Understand that not everyone who forgives reconciles with theperson who caused the pain. There are relationships that are harmful and evenphysically dangerous. While it is possible to forgive the past and move beyondit,it may also mean that the person who was involved can no longer play anactive role in your life. If a person or situation is not safe, it may be bestnot to reconcile the relationship now. Work on forgiveness at a time when youare emotionally healthy and physically safe.
④Make a conscious decision to forgive someone. Even if they neverapologize for what happened, determine within yourself that it is fine toproceed without this apology. Apologies should not be asking for forgiveness. Apologiesshould be offered as an effort of true regret. They should be admitting thattaking personal responsibility for the situation is important. Even withoutthat apology, make up your mind to forgive, forget, and eventually let go.
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Forgiving should be at a safe time
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Forgiving should be at a safe time
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Forgiving is not to deny what happened
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Forgiving is not to free someone from blame
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Forgiving should be at a safe time
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Forgiving is not to deny what happened
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Forgiving is not to free someone from blame
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You may forgive someone________.
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you may not become friends
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who are still dangerous to you
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who wronged you long time ago
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you may never get rid of emotional pain
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whoonly forgive those showing regret
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There is no fixed time________.
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you may not become friends
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who are still dangerous to you
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who wronged you long time ago
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you may never get rid of emotional pain
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Even if you’ve forgiven someone, ________.
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you may not become friends
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who are still dangerous to you
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who wronged you long time ago
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you may never get rid of emotional pain
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who only forgive those showing regret
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Don’t rush to forgive those________.
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you may not become friends
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who are still dangerous to you
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who wronged you long time ago
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you may never get rid of emotional pain
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who only forgive those showing regret
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Some people apologize merely________.
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who wronged you long time ago
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you may never get rid of emotional pain
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who only forgive those showing regret
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If you expect an apology, ________.
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you may not become friends
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who are still dangerous to you
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who wronged you long time ago
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you may never get rid of emotional pain
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who only forgive those showing regret
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